this was the response from a wise friend when i asked what's the deal with boys wanting to be a sort of 'savior' for the girls they want to love. some lyrics from a ryan adams song (see below) sparked my interest:

I thought maybe I could be some kind of shelter
But oh, your storm how it raged
You know your kisses, they were like lightnin' and thunder
And your smile is sweet and come down like rain

here she goes:
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Yeah I just don't get that stuff. So much drama. I used to think there was something wrong with me because I never was attracted to those kind of intense relationships where there's all kinds of tumult going on. But now I see them as kind of immature, and having to create drama where there is none, and relying on the passion from that drama to sustain a relationship. Because when you come right down to it, life, and love, can get boring, and some people are not okay with that.
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i'm going to make a sign and nail it to my door:

'NO DRAMA ALLOWED' (get it-instead of boys)

i understand the god given desire to protect & defend. and maybe i'm just slightly confused because no one i've wanted has tried to rescue me yet.

these things i'm not sure of yet.